feat(slack): ask the other person too, and put rating before sharing

Two halves of the same requirement, one of which was quietly missing.

Sharing split the money but never reached her: she is not in #smarthome,
so the card whose caption said "both verdicts welcome" was one she could
not see. Now a share DMs her a card of her own. A DM rather than adding
her to the channel, so her surface stays "orders that concern me"
instead of the whole house's ops feed. She was already in SLACK_USER_MAP,
so her press files under participant 4.

Only on the press that turns sharing ON, and only when someone else did
the sharing. Re-notifying on every later rating press would turn one
shared meal into a stream of DMs, which is how a nudge gets muted.

Her card carries no share button: she is being told it was shared, not
asked to decide, and two people toggling one split from separate copies
of a card is a race with no upside.

The app still holds no Slack bot token — it returns a notify instruction
and n8n sends it, the same shape as the modal open. If SLACK_USER_MAP has
no id for her the DM is skipped silently: the split is correct and
complete either way, and failing the press over an unaddressable nudge
would be the worse trade.

Card reordered to rate -> details -> share. You judge the food, then
decide who pays for it; asking "was this shared?" first inverts the
order a person thinks in. The status caption moved under the share button
it describes rather than sitting orphaned mid-card.

src/lib/slack-blocks.ts

@@ -50,25 +50,6 @@ export function nudgeBlocks(s: NudgeState) {
 
   return [
     { type: "section", text: { type: "mrkdwn", text: lines.join("\n") } },
-    {
-      type: "actions",
-      block_id: "share",
-      elements: [
-        {
-          type: "button",
-          action_id: "share_toggle",
-          // The label states what pressing it will DO, not the current state.
-          // A button labelled with its own state reads as already-pressed and
-          // gets tapped to "fix" it, toggling the thing it was reporting.
-          text: {
-            type: "plain_text",
-            text: s.shared ? "Make it just me" : "Shared 50/50",
-          },
-          style: s.shared ? undefined : "primary",
-          value: `${s.transactionId}:share`,
-        },
-      ],
-    },
     // A select, not four buttons. Slack's mobile client gives every button in
     // an actions block its own full-width row, so four ratings became four
     // stacked bars and the card filled the screen. One select is one row and
@@ -89,17 +70,6 @@ export function nudgeBlocks(s: NudgeState) {
         },
       ],
     },
-    {
-      type: "context",
-      elements: [
-        {
-          type: "mrkdwn",
-          text: s.shared
-            ? ":busts_in_silhouette: Split 50/50 — both verdicts welcome"
-            : ":bust_in_silhouette: Not shared",
-        },
-      ],
-    },
     {
       type: "actions",
       block_id: "details",
@@ -112,6 +82,40 @@ export function nudgeBlocks(s: NudgeState) {
         },
       ],
     },
+    // Sharing comes LAST. You judge the food, then decide who pays for it —
+    // asking "was this shared?" before "was it any good?" inverts the order a
+    // person actually thinks in (user, 2026-07-28). The controls are
+    // independent and each writes immediately, so this is presentation only.
+    {
+      type: "actions",
+      block_id: "share",
+      elements: [
+        {
+          type: "button",
+          action_id: "share_toggle",
+          // The label states what pressing it will DO, not the current state.
+          // A button labelled with its own state reads as already-pressed and
+          // gets tapped to "fix" it, toggling the thing it was reporting.
+          text: {
+            type: "plain_text",
+            text: s.shared ? "Make it just me" : "Shared 50/50",
+          },
+          style: s.shared ? undefined : "primary",
+          value: `${s.transactionId}:share`,
+        },
+      ],
+    },
+    {
+      type: "context",
+      elements: [
+        {
+          type: "mrkdwn",
+          text: s.shared
+            ? ":busts_in_silhouette: Split 50/50 — both verdicts welcome"
+            : ":bust_in_silhouette: Not shared",
+        },
+      ],
+    },
   ];
 }
 
@@ -220,3 +224,62 @@ export function detailsModal(
     ],
   };
 }
+
+/**
+ * The card DMed to the other person when an order is shared with them.
+ *
+ * Sharing splits the money; this is the other half of the same requirement —
+ * "if shared then get feedback from other user as well" (user, 2026-07-28).
+ * Without it that half was aspirational: she is not in #smarthome, so the
+ * channel card she was invited to answer was one she could not see.
+ *
+ * A DM rather than adding her to the channel, so her surface stays "orders that
+ * concern me" instead of the whole house's ops feed.
+ *
+ * No share button here on purpose. She is being told it was shared, not asked
+ * to decide — and a second person toggling the split from a stale copy of the
+ * card is a race with no upside.
+ */
+export function partnerNudgeBlocks(s: NudgeState, sharerName: string) {
+  const lines = [
+    `:receipt: *${s.merchant}* — ${s.currency} ${s.total.toFixed(2)}`,
+    `${sharerName} shared this with you, 50/50. How was it?`,
+  ];
+  if (s.warn) {
+    lines.push(
+      `:warning: This merchant was marked *never again* before` +
+        (s.warnNote ? ` — _${s.warnNote}_` : "")
+    );
+  }
+
+  return [
+    { type: "section", text: { type: "mrkdwn", text: lines.join("\n") } },
+    {
+      type: "actions",
+      block_id: "rate",
+      elements: [
+        {
+          type: "static_select",
+          action_id: "rate",
+          placeholder: { type: "plain_text", text: "How was it?" },
+          options: RATINGS.map((r) => ({
+            text: { type: "plain_text", text: RATING_LABEL[r] },
+            value: `${s.transactionId}:rate:${r}`,
+          })),
+        },
+      ],
+    },
+    {
+      type: "actions",
+      block_id: "details",
+      elements: [
+        {
+          type: "button",
+          action_id: "open_details",
+          text: { type: "plain_text", text: "Add details" },
+          value: `${s.transactionId}:details`,
+        },
+      ],
+    },
+  ];
+}

src/lib/slack-verify.ts

@@ -47,6 +47,16 @@ export function verifySlackSignature(
  * two-person household a wrong attribution is not a rounding error, it is the
  * other person's opinion recorded under your name.
  */
+/** The reverse: which Slack user is this participant, for DMing them. */
+export function slackUserForParticipant(participantId: number): string | null {
+  const map = process.env.SLACK_USER_MAP ?? "";
+  for (const pair of map.split(",")) {
+    const [slack, participant] = pair.split(":").map((s) => s.trim());
+    if (slack && Number(participant) === participantId) return slack;
+  }
+  return null;
+}
+
 export function participantForSlackUser(slackUserId: string): number | null {
   const map = process.env.SLACK_USER_MAP ?? "";
   for (const pair of map.split(",")) {